Making Your Bedroom a Sanctuary
Your bedroom is your sanctuary, not a community space. It is not a daycare, not a lounge, not a storage unit for everyone else’s mess. It is the one place in your home that should be yours, untouched, undisturbed, and protected like a sacred temple.
You cannot operate at your highest level if your personal space is chaotic, crowded, or constantly invaded by others. Your peace starts where you sleep, and if that space is in disorder, so is your mind. So today, I’m going to tell you how to take it back—no apologies, no negotiations.
1. Set the Rules & Enforce Them
I don’t care if you have kids, a partner, or guests staying over; everyone needs to know the rules. No one enters without permission. No one dumps their energy, their problems, or their clutter in your space. If your bedroom is the only place in your home that is truly yours, then guard it like a queen protects her throne.
No uninvited guests – That includes your children. Yes, I said it. You love them, but they need to learn boundaries. Your bed is not their playground.
No clutter – Clothes on the floor, piles of junk, random papers? Absolutely not. A messy space leads to a messy life.
No electronics in bed – Your bed is for rest, intimacy, and recharging your spirit—not scrolling through nonsense or entertaining the world’s distractions.
2. Design It for Peace
Your bedroom should make you feel calm, powerful, and safe. This is not a dorm room. This is not a crash pad. This is where you restore yourself.
Invest in quality bedding – If your sheets don’t make you feel like you’re sinking into luxury, you need better ones. No cheap walmart sheets. Really invest in your bed. Check the thread count. Check out Hotel Collections. Make sure to have multiple sets so you’ll be able to change your sheets throughout the week. I change mine daily, which also helps me stay on top of making my bed every day.
Choose soothing colors – Deep, rich tones or soft neutrals. Make it feel like a private retreat. I stick to black or white. Clean and simple. You don’t want to bring too much chaos into the bedroom with multiple colors all over the place. It is a foundation for you and doesn’t need to be complicated.
Control the energy – Low lighting, candles, essential oils. When you walk in, you should feel your entire spirit exhale. Invest in a diffuser. This one is one of my favorites and can be purchased on Amazon.
Bluetooth Waterless Essential Oil Diffuser
3. Train Your Household to Respect Your Space
If you don’t set the standard, people will walk all over it. If you’re tired of people barging in, throwing their energy on you, and treating your bedroom like an extension of the house, it’s because you’ve allowed it. Change that today.
Lock the door. Period.
Verbally set expectations. Say it once, mean it, and do not explain yourself.
Correct violations immediately. Someone disrespects your space? Stop what you're doing and address it on the spot. The first time. Every time.
Your Peace is Non-Negotiable
A woman who does not control her space does not control her life. Your bedroom is the heart of your personal power, and if you allow people to disturb it, they will disturb you.
From this day forward, your sanctuary is off-limits to anything that does not bring you peace, power, or pleasure. Be strict. Be firm. Be unapologetic. Because the moment you set those boundaries and protect your space, you will feel an immediate shift in your energy, your mindset, and your entire life.
Guard your peace like your life depends on it—because it does.
